This is the story that inspired me to write my ebooks and create this website.


“80% of the game is between your ears”, is what my senior high school

basketball coach would say to us at our practices. He would say it at the

beginning of practice as he would walk around the center of the gym where the

entire team was standing in a circle, stretching.


“80% of the game is between your ears”, he would repeat out loud. The snickers

and rolling eyes from some of the players (myself included) could be seen by

those in the stretching circle. This phrase meant nothing to us at that age. We

all wanted to finish stretching and start practice so we could play basketball. In

my mind, our ears and anything between them had nothing to do with playing

basketball. The game had to do with being in top physical shape. The main

skills are dribbling, passing and shooting.

What was interesting was what happened to me before most of the games we

played. I had butterflies in my stomach the size of a 747. I had a hard time

keeping my nerves down before games, which affected my playing. I spent more

time worrying about making a mistake then focusing on playing my best. Guess

what happened? I made a lot of mistakes. My mind concentrated on things such

as what people would think of me if I messed up. I felt like every mistake would

be seen by everyone and it would be never forgotten. It would be recorded in

their minds and referred back to for years to come.


I think back to what was going on in my mind when I was in high school and it

seems so silly to me. Why would I put myself through this? I was smart, athletic,

and confident. I didn’t need to buy into all those negative thoughts.

Throughout high school and into university, I had struggled with confidence in

myself. I had all these thoughts in my head of what people thought of me. The

majority of them were negative and untrue. Whenever I made a mistake, that

mistake replayed over and over in my head until I was convinced everyone was

laughing at me or they were constantly talking about me.


One day while I was doing some writing in my dorm room, I had a moment of

clarity. I finally clued into what “80% of the game is between your ears” meant. I

think it took me so long because this phrase in high school was a silly thing my

coach said to us at basketball practice. I never consciously thought of what it

actually meant.


My perspective of this phrase came full circle and I realized how this simple

phrase was applicable to so many aspects of my life outside of basketball. I

realized that my worries back in high school of making a mistake were directly

related to the mental side of the game. Our coach gave us the insight into this;

however, we didn’t receive additional tools on how to strengthen our skills in this

area.


This moment of clarity helped open my mind to the fact that these thoughts in

my head were in my control. Basketball wasn’t the only thing that involved that

thing between my ears; life in general did as well. I began to learn more about

strengthening my mind to control the negative thoughts that were interfering with

my ability to have self-confidence and a strong belief in myself.

I read books and listened to audiotapes on this subject. I was pleasantly

surprised to find an unlimited supply of resources.


I now use my website, www.BetweenYourEars.ca, to share a whole variety of

resources such as articles, ebooks, books etc. Some of the resources are my

own and others are from professionals who helped me when I was first starting to

strengthen that thing between my ears.


I believe that if we focus on 100% of what we want to achieve in life it is attainable by using that
thing between our ears, our mind. I am come to realize that the mind is the first step to master. I use 100% as a way to put the initial focus on the mind, however, at the same time understanding that the mind is not the only thing to get us to where we want to be.


Today, the media can put pressure on people to believe they are not smart

enough, not cool enough or even not good looking enough. This can put

thoughts in our heads that we can’t achieve certain things that we want in life.

You may have experienced or are still experiencing negative thoughts, low self- esteem, low self-confidence and/or self-doubt.


You can achieve whatever it is you want in life. You can be confident and remain

confident. You can believe in yourself all the time. And, you don’t need to worry

about what others think of you. It may take some time, but you can strengthen

that thing between your ears to the point where your mind is clear and focused

on what you want in life.


Now let’s strengthen that thing between your ears.


1. Based on your own life, what are three areas of your life you could

replace “the game” with to relate this philosophy to your own life?

Examples:

• 100% of my self esteem is between my ears

• 100% of my attitude is between my ears


2. Choose one of the areas from the above question. For the next

seven days, say the phrase, “100% of ‘your area’ is between my

ears” once in the morning, afternoon, evening and before you go to

bed. Throughout these seven days, write below any ideas that come

to mind to help your strengthen your mind in this area.